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It may be difficult for you to believe that your child wants you to go up the career ladder. Representatives of prestigious professions (lawyers, businessmen, company leaders, etc.) have one thing in common: their children love to command.
Do you remember how parents in childhood gave you everything you wanted? You didn’t even need to say a word, but only to show what you wanted – and your parents immediately brought it to you. If you didn’t like something, you grumbled displeasedly, and your parents eliminated what annoyed you. Most likely, this was not the case in your childhood, but this is often the case with modern children.
On the other hand, pay attention to how you behave with other adults. You are not inferior if someone is trying to take your place in traffic. You can sometimes keep silent in a dispute with the head or teacher of your child in kindergarten, but in general you behave confidently and with dignity.
However, everything changes when your child begins to command. Continue reading
Parents forbade something to many of us in childhood. Sometimes we heard the word “no” too often.
But years later, when we have our own children, we begin to understand our parents. Raising children is not an easy task. Parents can be good-natured and love their children indefinitely, but out of a sense of fear they use the wrong patterns of behavior. Try not to resort to such behaviors in dealing with children.
1. Excessive custody. Worrying news and phobias keep many parents at bay. However, life goes on. When fear controls our actions, it negates our good intentions. Anxiety for the child turns into control, looking after him into supervision, and protection into excessive custody. Sometimes, due to excessive custody, parents are tempted not to let the child out of the house, but this only suppresses him. If you do not allow your child to play on the court with other children, go to birthdays, etc., he will not be able to develop the communication skills that he needs. Let your child communicate with peers. Continue reading
When you voice safety rules to your child, you need to explain to them why this is important. You can achieve his submission by using the phrase: “Because I said so,” but this will not convince the child of the importance of the rule. Try to assure him that the rules are not needed to make his life less joyful, but to make him safe. The more fair and reasonable the rules seem to the child, the more likely that he will accept them and adhere to them.
Do not bully a child. If you do not want the child to climb trees, you should not tell him: “You will fall and turn your neck.” Say better: “You may fall, and you will be hurt.” If you exaggerate a possible danger, this can lead to one of two consequences (or both at once): Continue reading