Family connection: a positive atmosphere in the family
One of the main components of a happy family is the relationship between all its members: the ability to communicate, support and maintain relationships between parents and children.
Each family member wants to be understood, loved and paid attention to. If this happens, a strong emotional connection arises between family members.
Unfortunately, modern society does not always contribute to maintaining family ties.
Today we have so many modern technologies, but at the same time we are talking less and less to each other live. The high rhythm of modern life leads to the fact that we devote less time to our family.
The cause of many problems of adolescents (alcohol and drug abuse, juvenile delinquency, etc.) is the loss of emotional connection with the family. Even in financially prosperous families, children often feel unnecessary. Because of this, they are forced to look for a source of emotional connection outside the family. If your child is still young, you should create and strengthen a relationship with him as early as possible.
What is family connection?
Family connection is an emotional connection that arises between parents and children and persists for many years. Family connection creates a person’s sense of security, thanks to this connection, he feels himself part of the family. Family connection implies that all family members together participate in significant events, devote time to each other, create and maintain family traditions, etc.
Recent studies by American psychologists have shown that the bond between parents and children can protect them from many problems. Family communication helps prevent many health problems in adolescents, and also reduces the risk of social problems.
Family communication works on a top-down basis, that is, parents always initiate it. Regardless of whether your child grows up in a complete or single-parent family, you can create a parenting style that will facilitate the development of family ties.
Three steps to creating a family connection
1. Consider your parenting style. On your own or with your spouse, think about the parenting style you want to use for your children. What are your educational goals? What do you think good parents should be? What values do you want to instill in your children? How can you help them become successful people in the future?
2. Create a plan. Identify specific points that will make up your parental mission. Identify the different areas important to your family, as well as the priorities in raising children.
3. Create an action system with which you can implement your plan. Make arrangements with your spouse about how you plan to raise children together. For example, minor problems can be resolved immediately as they arise. More serious issues must be discussed with your spouse before making a final decision.
Make mistakes. There are no perfect parents – you and your spouse will make mistakes in the process of education. If you feel guilty, angry, or come into conflict with your spouse, it will not benefit either you or your children.
Finally, if you cannot reach an understanding with your spouse or children, contact a specialist for help. A family psychologist will help you reach a compromise.