Tips on how to improve the quality of life in the new year
The time is coming when we are summing up the results of the outgoing year and give ourselves the promise to change something in life in the new year. In most families, New Year’s Eve is full of fuss and preparations for the holiday. In such a rhythm, often there is no time to think and take stock, therefore, decisions to change something in your life usually come on New Year’s Eve.
Many of us have made such promises to ourselves many times. But, to be honest, few did not only fulfill them, but even remembered them after a short time.
Children are also trying to make some decisions on New Year’s Eve, but their successes are as small as in adults. The problem is that such promises do not coincide with our life goals. Promises are just statements (albeit sincere) about the desire to make your life better, and not a specific plan of change.
It doesn’t matter whether a child or an adult wants to change something in his life – without a clear plan of action, his goal is most likely doomed to failure. It should not be. Achieving a goal requires more than just a declaration of desire.
Setting a real goal implies the fulfillment of several conditions:
goal should be based on realistic expectations;
the goal should be formulated so that it can be measured;
a goal requires an implementation plan, so it can usually be broken down into several smaller steps;
The goal must have a specific deadline.
It is also good to have someone close by who can assess whether the goal has been achieved. This is not necessary (especially for personal goals), but extremely useful. Working in a team (or at least with a partner) increases the likelihood of successfully achieving a goal. The team can support in case of difficulties and give useful advice in the process of achieving the goal.
Why not on New Year’s Eve learn how to set goals and teach a child? It can also help get close to your child or, even better, strengthen family ties. Consider a few tips that might help.
First of all, it is worth making setting goals for the new year a family tradition. Discuss this with your spouse and relatives who live with you.
After you do this, you can invite your child to join you in this lesson. Children of school age and older are quite prepared for this.
As soon as you agree to set and discuss goal setting for the coming year together, find a time convenient for everyone. Best for this is evening, a day off, or any other time convenient for everyone. One of the adults must take on the role of the leader in order to start the meeting.
Each of those present should share why he decided to set goals for next year. After that, tell us what goals you want to set. Perhaps you have any ideas for the whole family – share them.
After each of those present speaks out, one should share how each of you sees the process of achieving your goal. After that, share your past experiences with achieving goals. Invite to talk about how desires turn into life goals.
After this, discuss how ordinary desires differ from life goals. Now you are ready to set goals. For this, you can use the brainstorming method.
Brainstorming is a method that has been used for many years to solve problems and set goals. Consider the basic principles of brainstorming and the sequence of actions:
1. Identify the problem you want to solve. What happened Why is this a problem for you? When did it happen? How often does this happen?
2. Each of those present must agree that this is a problem, and it requires a solution.
3. Brainstorm possible solutions to the problem together. When someone offers an idea, do not criticize. Just make a list of all suggested ideas.
4. Browse the list, evaluate the advantages and disadvantages of each of the proposed solutions. How real is this or that idea? Is it reachable within a reasonable time? How beneficial is it? How easy or difficult it is. In the end, we do not need goals that are almost impossible to achieve.
5. Choose a solution that, in your opinion, will work better than others. Develop an action plan and bring it to life.
6. Keep track of how you are approaching your goal. Adjust your methods if necessary.
Let’s say your child says that his goal in the new year is to go to school better. This is an achievable goal, but it is better to define it more specifically. For example: “Next year I will do all homework on time” or “Next quarter I will increase my math score from 7 to 9.” However, when you learn about the goal of the child, you ask him: “What do you need to do differently to achieve the goal?” Or “Do you need my help or the help of a teacher to achieve the goal?”