Phrases that children should not say
From time to time, parents tell their children inappropriate and even harmful phrases. And, no matter how rude this may sound, by doing so they commit great stupidity. Sooner or later, the children will grow up and realize that you lied to them in order to achieve their goal. However, the phrases that we will discuss below can bring them emotional harm.
Parenting is not an easy task for parents. Great efforts are needed to form a full-fledged personality and a worthy member of society from a child. In addition, parenting takes all your free time. But at the same time, it is also the most important and enjoyable job that you have ever had to do in your life.
In such a chaotic process, you happen to tell your child something inappropriate or meaningless. Of course, you are not doing this on purpose. Perhaps you are tired, anxious, or busy with something when a careless harsh phrase flies from your lips.
It is important to understand that the rude things that you say to your child, he will certainly say in the future to his children. Therefore, try to prevent such situations for the benefit of future generations.
So, in communicating with children, try to avoid the following phrases.
“You are the same as your father / mother”
Parents use this phrase very often. Do not forget that the child inherits the genes of both the father and mother. It is not surprising that this also manifests itself in his character. The child adopts the habits of both parents. Therefore, no matter what you think about the character of the spouse, you should not set the child against him.
If you have any disagreements with your spouse, you should not get the child involved in them. If you constantly blame the child for something bad, like his father, he may begin to believe in it and begin to dislike his father in the future.
“Stop immediately, otherwise …”
If the phrase of the parents ends with the words “or else …”, this only spurs the curiosity of the child. He will continue to do what he has begun until he finds out what awaits him. Sometimes, to discipline a child, tough measures are really necessary, but resorting to empty threats is simply silly. When you do this, you make it clear to the child that the use of force and threats helps to get what you want. In addition, if you voice your threats to the child, be prepared to keep your word in case of disobedience, otherwise the child will understand that your words have no power.
Even if you need to urgently pacify a child, remember that threats are not suitable for this. Try to find a more constructive way, for example, to discuss with the child the pros and cons of the situation.
“Don’t act like a girl”
Parents often tell this offensive phrase to boys from an early age so that they do not cry and behave courageously. This phrase implies that girls are somewhat inferior to boys. In addition, it gives the boys a signal that boys should not cry and show their emotions – only girls do it.
This phrase is insulting, and it is not only impossible to tell the boys, but even to pronounce it in the presence of girls.
Remember that when you do not allow the child to show his emotions, this leads to the fact that his emotional sphere does not develop. Over time, this can lead to the fact that the child
grow insensitive to the emotions of others.
“Stop crying, or you will have a reason for it”
Does your child cry for any reason, and you want to make the situation even worse? Undoubtedly, this is a stupid phrase, especially considering the fact that parents pronounce it so that the child stops crying. Communicating with children can be difficult, but if the child is already upset, threats will only aggravate the situation. Threats will not solve the problem, and the child will see in them only betrayal.
Understand that a crying baby wants to feel comfortable with their parents. Try to reassure the child and understand what is bothering him. Become his friend for a while, not your parent.
“You’re too young to understand this.”
This phrase is often used by parents to silence the child. The child asks you a question, and you either don’t know the answer or don’t want to answer. However, it is important to remember that modern children are extremely smart, and with each generation their mental abilities increase. In addition, if you do not know the answer to some question, the child can easily find it on the Internet.
There is no single way to get out of this situation. It all depends on the specific question and on whether the child has reached the age to receive an answer to it.
“Eat everything, children in Africa are starving”
It’s true. Millions of children are starving, not only in Africa, but around the world. If this bothers you, why make the child overeat? How will this help the children of Africa? Many parents uttered this funny phrase to make the child eat. Instead, you can say that his beloved superhero would like him to always eat up everything he has on his plate. So he will become healthy and strong.
“You are punished! Go to your room immediately! ”