When a child goes to school, it may be a relief for you that he communicates more with his peers, especially if you work. On the other hand, spending too much time apart, you move away from each other. You may not notice this yet, but your influence on the child is already beginning to weaken and in his behavior he is increasingly taking an example from classmates and friends.
Your goal for the next few years is to build a strong relationship with your child that will counterbalance peer influence. When a child goes into adolescence, this foundation will be very important.
So, what should a school-raising strategy include?
1. Keep in touch with your child Continue reading
There is one small action, using which you can strengthen the emotional connection with your loved ones. It is a hug.
Hugs are a powerful form of recognition that the other person is important to you. This is not a friendly pat on the shoulder, but a strong and gentle hug in which you put your feelings. This is an indicator of emotional closeness between two people. Hugging another person, you kind of say to him: “I am with you.” And it is especially valuable in difficult times.
From a physiological point of view, hugs contribute to the release of oxytocin, the so-called “attachment hormone”. It promotes attachment and the strengthening of existing ties and relationships, including between the mother and the newborn. Hugs and other touches are probably an evolutionary mechanism that contributes to survival. Oxytocin is produced not only as a result of physical proximity with another person, but also as a result of other forms of emotional connection (for example, eye contact, a smile, and manifestations of attention). Continue reading
We do not raise children to prepare them for childhood – we prepare them for adulthood. We take certain actions to educate our children, and on this basis, children understand what kind of behavior is normal. They consolidate their habits and patterns of behavior that remain with them in adulthood.
Of course, we wish only the best for our children. We want them to live a happy life, be able to overcome all the difficulties of adulthood, or just better at school. More often than not, we just want them to succeed in life, and are looking for advice that could help them do this.
But best of all, we can help our children when we show them an example, rather than telling something. With the help of certain actions that you will perform in the presence of your child, you can educate him successful and well adapted to adulthood. Let your children see you and take an example from you. Continue reading