Anger and disobedience are normal reactions of a person when they feel threatened or fearful. This reaction is natural for both adults and children, regardless of whether the threat is real and comes from the outside world or is inside us (for example, when we are deeply upset, confused, feel grief or frustration). Anger or disobedience can ease the feeling of powerlessness and relieve pain for a while.
Young children are not yet able to cope with disappointments, as they do not possess the necessary skills for this. Their psyche is not yet sufficiently developed so that they can see the real causes of their disorders. They cannot calm themselves and regulate their reactions. Punishing a child for bad behavior in such cases is not only unfair, but also unproductive. From this he feels even more impotence and anger.
But, if punishment only reinforces the child’s bad behavior, how to cope with his bad behavior? What can be done if the child shows anger or disobedience? Continue reading